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New Draft (old draft contains the orginal post, new ones just my latest take on things)
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  1. Skin color Reason :https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kXMltbMFbsA
  2. Flab,figure , skin texture , conservative ,mature and lack of a playful fun impression r all there, but i wanna explain what exactly is attractive with my impact theory.

Impact theory says that all purpose of all forms/forces trapped within those forms ( life or otherwise) is to make an impact. For Life forms, they derive pleasure out of things that are impactful – explains why a child likes to play with toys or we like to listen to music or why we find other races exotic or why we like to play around with pets. I mean at an ultimate level im a nihilist but from a biological perspective, we derive pleasure out of making an impact( not always proportionately but nevertheless).

einstein is an impactful person but his wife would only find little comfort in that. Coz We like to make an impact on an impactful person to maximise our impact and not waste our efforts on less impactful people. And Einstein is impactful for his physics intelligence and his wife has little to do with the impact he was creating. However, if you are the guy thats hitting sunny leone on a regular basis, sunny leone – who makes millons of guys waste spem, you are an impactful guy, right? In primitive times women find dominant males attractive, coz dominant males were simply more impactful. But like I said, the brain is not very efficient and it still mostly gets attracted to physical superiority than intellectual superiority. Coz its easy to extrapolate physical impact than intellectual impact. Plus attraction, pleasure love making, baby making are all related to physical health.

I mean, einsteins wife is there to have physical relations with him and some personal emotional stuff, she has little do do with the intellectual impact that he is creating. Attraction is only about physical impact, and only people who are cuter, can dance , can talk smooth , with whom one can extrapolate fun in mind come across as attractive.If you wanna be attractive , you gotta be impactful in the physical sense  and not in fighting sense but in physical/pleasurable sense. Im tired now so will post my video here

Now a bit about how to act in front of attractive people that u see. Like I said it all about making the right moves – moves that indicate your impact potential, within the area of fun/cool things pertaining to mating.When you are walking in a public places – deep down what everyone whats to do is to make an impact on the other somehow. There are several scenarios to this. Someone who wants nothing to do with ones below them will refrain from making any moves coz they simply want to avoid them. But someone who feel inferior to the other also refrains from making any moves coz they wanna save any pain from confrontation.In the former case, it would be like – Im big enough so that the other one is not able to make any impact one me, in the other case – you wanna come across like im big enough that im confidently making my move infront of the other, while the other isnt making any move. Even in the former scenario – by not making any moves/staying indifferent to the efforts of someon else, one is trying to send across a message that they are better than the other and thus make an impact on them. So what should you do? Obviously if u think they are attractive u gotta make positive moves, coz if u act otherwise – u r just kidding urself – people can sense you are acting like u r better without a proper reason and that u r truely not confident about urself. But in some cases u need to have an attitude too which is explained below. Even with someone who u think is marginaly attractive and that u r better than them, u still want to make an impact on them. So the fact that u r trying to make an impact on them doesnt mean that they r superior to you.  So, For the first 2 to 3 seconds u see an atractive girl/guy you just stare at their beauty, for the next 2 to 3 seconds you still stare thinking how better than u they r wrt beauty/fun stuff.  Right there  they have already made an impact on you, but you are yet to make an impact on them and at this point they are the ones superior to you hence. You generally cant do much about that, but recover after some 6 or 7 seconds and realise how impactful and superior you are in comparison to them or the guy/girl hitting them. ( if you are a nihiilist, your life is also better than theirs). And now after the 7 seconds, have an attitude in your face — which they might note — and which might  shake them up and leave them wondering how eaxctly does this person think they are better than them. If they see that attitude in your face ( attitude with a real reason and not just fake attitude without proper reason) they will be shaken n wondering and thats all the impact that you can hope to make. Somewhere in my blogs or vlogs ive mentioned why Intelligence is more impactful than looks- cos the most attractive guy can only bring about some 10000 kids at absoulte max with his charming ability. A person of intelligence can make or wipe out billions of lifes and influence billions of lives. So attitude with a real reason is important, and when u have this true confidence and attitude with a real reason, all you have to do is to have a demeanour that indicates you will be willing to make playful/fun move for the others — which they might sense and reciprocate leading to positive relations. Even people who know you are better than them will be genuinely nice( make fun,positive moves towards you). They simply accept u r better and just hope that they can impact you in some ways. Only problem is , they get let down by people who think they are better and sometimes they start to care about being superior to others. But mostly people just stare and walk past so you just have to indicate that you think you are better than them, not try to come across as friendly. Only in the case that you think that the other person respects you and thinks you are impactful and wants to connect with you, you change your demeanor to being friendly, till then “im holier than thou” attitude will do just fine while you are walking by and seeing people who think they are up there.

Now only 2 kinds of people have it easy and have the natural confidence 1) people with good looks and 2 ) people who are the elite/sophisticated- in india people who talk in english all the time and act not so much like a typical indian but an hybrid-westernish person.  1 st category instantly know that they are being looked at when they walk in a public place, 2nd category – They belong to a elite circle and can instantaneously classify the surrounding crowd as below them and hence they get that confidence instantly. These hybrid coconuts however feel inferior to foreigners when walking amongst them.

Now you will notice these types and stare at them for a while – you cant help that. many pretend to not notice them but still both parties know who feels they are superior and inferior. Now if you are someone that doesn not have looks or do not belong to an elite crowd, but still upon reflection you know you are a better/having more impactful person, this is how it has to be. For the first 4 or 5 seconds you simply stare at them admiring/noticing/analyzing their goods. But what you have to do is think about how you are the better/more impactful person and find true confidence and superiority about yourself – almost like you are ready for a confrontation with them with confidence.  However you cant just be mean all the time, you may also have to try and befriend them for either romantic or other kinds of association. So words that have to go through your mind is ” I M BETTER THAN YOU , BUT I ALSO WOULD LIKE TO PLAY/DEAL WITH YOU” With this attitude in your head you can also establish your supremacy but also open up your chances of impacting them positively/mutually. If you truely intelligent and have a better impact potential , you as a south indian also belong to the most successful group on earth and this have a good background – if you wanna know how, you gotta check out my other blogs n youtube channel videos.So there are plenty of reasons for you to feel superior to the coconuts or the ones blessed with hotness. But keep reading the older draft of this – where ive discussed some stuff in detail.
But only from one perspective ‘making an impact’ is the ultimate thing in life and your impact potential is what makes you better or worse than the other. But from the
perspective of a number of other schools of thought – say for example nihilism or buddhism, what matters most is happiness. ANd now there’s 3 things in contention –
Impact potential, pleasure potential and Happiness potential. Although from this perspective pleasure trumps impact, it doenst mean that one who has the most
pleasurable life is the most happiest. One can have a better happiness potential based on their philosophy or other virtues. So Eiher by impact potential or happiness
potential, intelligent ones can have the confidence that they are better than the charming ones who seem to have all the worldy pleasures happen for them.

So final takewaway is – u just have to have a proper reason to believe in your superiority n not fake it and whether u choose to have an attitude or try to be friendly depends on the situation. But its not that you always compare urself with people u see. When you see a noticeable person your mind either starts thinking whether they are better than you or not, or , thinks about whether you can be with them or atleast u are with a group of people like or better than them . This blog has thus far already dealt with how you go about comparing urself and feeling better. But sometimes, you feel like why cant you be with that person even though you may feel like u r better than them. If you feel that way , i think what one has to do is think about how your life is still better/happier than someone who gets to have them in their life. Better/Happier coz of ur happiness potential – owing to your better philosophy. The moment you see a person like that should instantaneously turn into a moment of reflection of how better ur life is,  or simply just enjoy admiring them knowing that ur life is better and feeling good at the end of it.  If you do this quick enough you come across as someone with potential.Even if you dont do it quick enough, end of it you should process everything and get feeling good – either coz of ur reflection of your betterness or coz of getting to see an attractive person and getting turned on for some moment. Bu the above is just so that you start feeling good, and you still have to make an impact when ur out in front of others – somehow its not enough if u just feel good abt yourself. So to make an impact, you have to get ur confidence as soon as possible and indicate the passers by that you think you are better than them, that will shake them up – which is ur impact on them. For this, whenever u go out in the public, you can be ready for it and carry an attitude all the time. You know what im saying – some people whenever they are in public – always walk around with an attitude. If you cant always walk around with an attitude, you should atleast be able to generate that attitude/confidence at the quickest. you should simply try to have an attitude most of the time ” thinking that im better than most people coz i have a better philosophy in life, and this philosophy beats looks,power,money,sophistication & other pleasures”. If you cant have that attitude all the time – just the ability to get the confidence quickly. As a strategy you can try to have an attitude when u walk past too many people in a mall or something where you dont have enough time. but in a place where you are with many people, you can stay relaxed and take your time to display your attitude and make an impact.In situations when you are generally relaxed suddenly come across attractive people where you dont even have enough time to make an impact( say for example you are going in a car and you see someone attractive walk past)- thats the tricky one – you dont get to make an impact as in most of the limited moments you have – you are just staring them processing their attractiveness. There is an urge for you to make an impact on them coz after you make an impact you are happier. But the whole point of trying to make an impact is just to be happy, so even if you dont make an impact ( by making them notice you) you can reflect about how you are better than them and feel happy about it. You can just do your best to make an impact there, but its hard to switch quickly – so just know that its okay that you didnt get to show ur attitude to them. It is the attractive and the elite ones that get to make the impact in those situations mostly.You can only try to get ur confidence asap and make them notice. Most of the time you wont even be in a position where they can notice you and so its hard for you to make an impact. But if they dont notice you, it means that they dont realise the impact theyve made on you and hence you dont have to feel like youve let someone else make an and impact on you without you being able to do the same on them – so its okay, you dont have to feel down about not being able to make an impact on them. Just know that if you get to confront them one on one you will be able to get the better ( assuming that you are confident about your impact & happiness potential). In the case that they do notice you noticing them, you have a chance to make them realise ur confidence – even if its only a fraction of a second. So be prepared for that fraction of a moment – if you see someone attractive walking past but you dont know if they will notice you or not, be prepared for it anyway and bring that attitude in ur face – for if they notice ur confidence, u would have made an impact on them.Actually the moment you stare – it doesnt indicate whether you feel confident or not – its the way you follow through after you notice/stare at them that tells whether you think you are better than them or not. Simply staring at others doesnt come across as you thinking they are better – your follow up demeanour does. So a short stare and a quick follow up with a better demeanour is the way. And after you have walked past you can think about what would happen if you interact with them and if you feel that you are superior to them you will be happy in your head.

Actually we still havent adequately explained how the sophisticated and good looking people feel confident all the time. They dont constantly asses every single moment their surroundings – it is done very subconsciously they get a feel /estimate the surrounding and carry with them their confidence most of the time. So when they carry the confidence around, even if they stare at you in some instances, it doesnt come across as someone beneath you is staring at you. Unfortunately if you are not good looking or a of a  sophisticated circle, you cannot get that feel constantly.  These people have the confidence all along the time they look at you, but you may need to generate it and takes time for you and so it doesnt come to you naturally if you are not that category. When i came back after living in australia for 4 years, i carried that confidence. I have confidence in some settings. Actually even if you are hot stuff yourself, if you havent seen as many good looking people before – you stare. You just have to have been in a cirlce/atmosphere where you see good looking people most of that time – in which case you dont stare too much at someone good looking and can quickly display a confidence. But if you are not from that background – you begin to stare more. So its just who you see/hang out/belong with most of the time that affects whether you stare at people for long or not and how qucikly you can bring your confidence. If your friends circle/background is average you will be staring at people for a longer time and cant bring up ur confidence quickly – even though you maybe of a higher impact or happiness potential. It all just depends on your background. So send ur kids to good schools. So think about it, you have definitely seen hot people but ones who u know instantly are below you status wise and so you look at them with confidence almost instantly. Only if you are not from a elite background you start ogling at someone attractive for sometime before you recover from your ogling and start to pose with confidence. This person just have to be at your status or maybe slightly higher than the crowd you generally hang out with for you to feel this way ( shaken at first, but able to recover later).People only have to be slightly better than the status of people who ur used to seeing everyday for you to feel that way – its not necessary that it makes you below them.You always walk around with a feeling -anticipating dealing with people of a certain status/range. If someone who is beyond that(either in pleasure potential or happiness/impact potential or with a higher status) shows up -which you were not anticipating…you have to change your mindset – the way you carry yourself and all that to deal with them. Thats requires sometime – you cant change much about it. Thats why its better if you belong to a elite background – you just feel confident in most times and scenarios and since your strategy/mindet is already wrt dealing with elite people in mind, you can instantaneously feel better than most people you see . This also gives people the impression that you are as good as the circle you belong to – but this is not true you can be of a much higher happiness potential than the family you are born into or the friend’s circle you get. South Indians/tamils in general are of low happiness/pleasure & impact potential generally and so you as a tamil will look at northies with awe on occasions when you see them. But like i said, watch my other blogs and realise that you are of better impact/happiness potential.  And when you realise that you are better than the attractive person in front of you – you just have to look at them with a confidence – “im better than you but id like to deal with you” confidence and look at them with comfort/a sense of superiority / without any insecurity – as if you were looking at a hot girl but from a naive background. In real life, you dont have time to think of all the reasons why you are better, so just know that you are of a better potential from the top of the head. Just start looking at them with a confidence. The only thing that you realize is that they are better than your cirlce, but quickly realise that they are not better than you.So just instantaneously look at them with confidence as if you would look at a person who is attractive but not as much an impact/coolness potential as you. White people carry this feeling all the time with other races .And there is an hierarchy among races. Indians feel this confidence over mongoloids and Negroids, but not so much with other caucasians. So dont even think, just look at people with confidence in most situations – you can work out later how you personally are better and that they might just be better/attractive than the people you regulary see.Its actually not even status or anything, we tend to notice people who are ultimately higher at happiness potential (not the fake happiness potential like most moral do gooders). We are evaluating happiness potential of people in our surroundings and the minute someone with a formidable potential comes, we need to adjust our strategy and so it takes time for that. If you are from a circle/background where people are of a higher happiness potential, your adjustment is limited as you are already walking around with an mindset/stratgey that fits into to those. If not, you have to raise your game and get your confidence as soon a possible and get that ” im better than you but i still wanna deal with you” demeanor indicating your confidence/happiness potential. And happiness potential roughly is a factor of  looks and sophistication after all. And when i say adjust your strategy – it doesnt mean falsely believing you have a better happiness potential – its just that these “attractive” people have a higher potential than the regular people in your life and so you have to change your demeanor accordingly. Either the people you see are below or above the average potential of your cirlce. For the ones adjudged below – there is no adjustment needed as, as per your natural instincts you dont really want anything from them. For the ones above your background( not you necessarily but your background), your natural instincts are to do something about it and want to do something with them. Thats why you feel like you should do something about them. But the fact that you wanna do something with them doesnt mean they are above you – it just means they have something to offer that can enhance your life experience than what you have currently- like the people in your circle / background. It may also be the case that you can offer or enrich their life way more that what they can offer you with your impact/pleasure/happiness potential, but still you’d be interested in them. So its okay and natural that for the ones above your feel/approach has to be different than the regular people. You need to bring up your confidence in those cases and display them in your demeanour, dont go feeling insecure. I mean you may become insecure if you dont have reasons to believe that you are of a higher potential . But the point here is, you dont have to wonder why you feel like acting differently with some people especially attractive/high potential people. I have, for the longest time wondered why people act differently with different people and that its bad to act that way. But now i guess the above points justfy the difference in our feeling wrt diff category of people. Regarding that “wanting to something about them” part – you just have to get ready to engage with you confidence ( true confidence which comes naturally with proper reasons)- the feeling which you can skip with normal people. Actually need to continue on here…Theres people “who you wanna do something with” but you know are below you. And theres people “who you wanna do something with” but you are not sure if they are too good for you meaning – they are of a higher potential than you.But if you are not sure if they are too good for you, it is only a reflection of the people who are in your circle/background mostly. You may be still be better than them individually coz of ur philosophy/coolness/happiness potential etc.The logic ive been telling before applies here, its mostly just about your background if you feel you may not be good enough for certain people. If you are philosophically sound, you are a cool person with a great happiness potential and so you be proud of yourself and feel better than most people you see.

So the kinds of people there are are

  1. people who you wanna have nothing to do with
  2. people who you wanna do something to with – but know you are better than them
  3. people who you wanna do something to with – but they are higher than the background/professional/friends circle you belong to but not better than you
  4. people who you wanna do something to with – they are better than your circle, and they maybe better than you if you dont have enough happiness potential. Hopefully you dont feel this way about anyone and you are truely cool/of a higher happiness potential than anyone else you come across in person, owing to your better philosophy.

Since from a nihilistic point of view, being happy is the ultimate aim of life ( & even from buddhist & bhagwath gita point of view) people who seem happiest/upbeat/confident in any place/environment r themost suprior people in that environment. Not fake happy but real happy about who they are and their impact potential or pleasure potential or their happiness potential.

Now to walk around feeling good all the time no matter how better looking /cool people you may come across in real life situations – Rate people. You obviously dont care about people who are not that great – you can give them a 0. 1 is marginally okay – you wudnt mind hangin out kinda people. You have to give yourself 5 if you are a nihilist south indian tamil like me who knows the things I do indicating the success of Tamils as a group as well as the knowledge of what its all about and what makes one better than others – like i mentioned its happiness potential which is followed and pleasure and impact potential which are derivatives of the happiness potential.  So when you see some really hot/ hip people you can instantaneously rate then and get quicker in rating them. Most people come in the range of 3 and you can the re-rate them when you thin more. But just rate them near 3 and you can feel better about yourself. Even if yu are walking around with 1’s as you partner/friends, you know you are a 5 while the others are only a 3 and so you can act accordingly with that in mind and you will naturallu come across as confident n noticeable.

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TamBrahms….

All the only nobel laureates for science, born in India. The only indian considered to be a mathematical genius. And some Intellectuals and artists and captains of Industries and other achievements as well. They are pretty fair, not like the rest of us darkies from the south, Quite beautiful faces, rich and affluent, enjoy a good reputation and status(throughout history), can speak english well,quite sophisticated , understand and can synthesise the different aspects of modernity & global culture, etc , etc..well you know what im trying to say

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But still I would not give a second look at them when i see them anywhere(actually i would, but just trying to make a point here)..not like i have lived only in TN/Chennai, and Im not a prejudiced member of the dravidian movement either. Infact im anti-dravidian and a BJP spporter(not that i know too much abt politics or anything).

Im not even talking about the novelty factor and the fact that I can look through them being a tamil/southie/chennaiite myself. I am trying to say why despite having such wonderful attributes , they, according  to me are not what i consider ‘The Elite’ amongst desis.

So what is eliteness, what are the attributes of the elite and why?. I mean Im sure we are all constantly working towards climbing the social ladder and trying to be the cool/hipster crowd( like the great Gatsby). -Though many might deny it or not have explicitly thought it out this way but,..generally speaking i believe this to be the case…

I say this about tambrahms coz relatively, they are not associated with fun as much as an average north indian.

I have dealt with this topic in much much details in my videos/vlogs and other blogs..but let me try to briefly.. here.
Living in a hot climate has given southies dry,damaged, stretched out, thick,skin, and saggy and non-flatter facial features.A loss of collagen, saggy muscles and improper physical frame because of the inhibition of vitamin D by melanin and lower synthesis of youth hormones such as oestrogen which shapes ones thinking/voice/body chemistry, loss of essential supply of nutrients to blood and organs via dehydration and sweating and hence not so great organs such as eyes( studies indicated northies have a better eyes than southies). Many such anti-neotenous factors influencing us for over 1000s of years because of living in this generally hotter geography and thereby contributing permanent changes to the molecular leisons..known as genetic change,as well as the physical features/lack of neoteny contributing to lack of intellectual neoteny and a more mature,dullish thinking compared to the north.
North india, has a good variation of hot and cold climate which is good for muscle/skin biology..making muscles firmer, faces flatter, good body chemistry and hence nice neotenous features…Physical neoteny enforcing intellectual neoteny..which has its influence on how they think and their culture and having this neotenous mindset of a 10 year old also making their faces cuter while the mature attitude and behaviour making the faces of southies..a bit mature and not playful or flirty or anything.

In other words.think Vidya Balan, think kareena kapoor. Who is the mature/Intelligent of the two? , who would you flirt with/like to have fun with? You can also think of some bengali bombshells if not kareena..to compare against vidya or trisha or hemamalini or heroines like that.

Generally speaking, the whole perception of North indians is that they are more playful/neotenous and fun(think salman or akshay) and that of south indian is more mature and serious(think surya or even raj kiran if you may) ..even if i first like a person coz i thought they are NI but when I find they are SI, I lose interest…its the perception trigerring the other things in my brain..thats what happened with aishwariya rai a long time ago.

I  showed pictures of girls in bharathmatrimony and asked a punjabi friend of mine to tell if he would flirt with the girl or not (not if he thought she was beautiful or not). I mainly showed tamil, pinjiabi,hindi gujarati bengali , and overwhelmingly he would say yes to flirting with non-tamils and no to tamils(brahmins included). He is not at all a prejudiced guy and he doesnt also wouldnt know if he was looking at a tamil or hindi or punjabi girl from the ID’s

What makes one elite? or atleast on the top of the social ladder that we talked about.
If you size up a person and think that that person has more than you he/she is higher up the ladder right? and what do people envy most, is it money/wealth? knowledge? respect? deeper intellectual ability? sure all these things do matter. But the one that takes priority is the basic thing that makes you a fit for survival and propogation of you and related genes. Everyone can get good food, so whats a rarity is attractivenss/sexyness.. If you are attractive you will have a lot of positive moments in life. people with money,intelligence, status etc ..they all want to use those only to get attractive partner. Dont get politically correct on me and say there are other imp things in life blah blah..Im saying generally/biologically speaking this is th case..In real life there may be a lot of complexity in preferences, but biologically speaking food and mating are the fundamental instincts. And this is why being sexy/attractive/fun is more than other things.

I had already talked about(in other blogs) why being attractive is more important than being Intelligent and why experiences pertaining to sex are more important than experiences pertaining to intellectual and other kinda achievements. https://jayanpsk.wordpress.com/2013/06/24/httpswww-youtube-comwatchvmtuw_qwgm74who-would-you-rather-be-in-the-car/

No matter how wealthy you are, how deep your thoughts are, how knowledgeable and sophisticated you are , if you do not have beauty in your group you will feel like you are below another group. A Major part of an individual  confidence comes from ones background. And this is probably why people from being self-centred when they are young, realise the need to improve their community – thats certainly the case with me

people with beauty do have things in life a bit more easy than the others, and it feels like no matter how much effort the later puts in, the attractive ones seem to be getting higher up the ladder more easily. Thats why Bombay,delhi and even blore with many northies coming are whats considered the ‘Hipster’/cool cities and people from these cities do tend to look down upon someone from lets say chennai.

And northies, be honest. you are comfortable around southies because you know are better looking than them and you feel a sense of superiority(subconsciously and many pricks consciously). You are more confident around them and you try to be nice to them and on occassions even generously forefit the title of being more intelligent. But some cocky ones act the other way..aggressive,because they are northies they think they always have a more valid point,better perspective and that they are more sophisticated and cool..like making fun of southies for their accents(despite the northies have their own accent..that is a cool accent as they are the cool people) .

For eg. Why does this asshole in the Ad have a Disgusting look on his face while saying ‘kolaver di??’ @ 00.18

Ive see many react that way while talking about things related to south. They let out a disgusted ,degrading  tone/expression implying that things related to south are somehow lower and something to be ridiculed. But in the same plane , when they talk about Italian,,they always use a tone which signifies that they are talking about something glamorous, sexy and something which is on a higher level..not just in the above ad but many other occasions and in real life too.

The more some one is fair/good looking, closer/associated to europens..they sub-consciously think they have more of a right to act that way,like they think they have more of a right to talk in english,wear westrn clothes and tastes and more confidence that you are doing it better than your counterpart who is not so closely associated with the white/western traits. Its not just themselves….all people in general expect a fair skinned/person associated with beauty to act cute,be sophistictaed(or watever the good looking person does becomes the trend/sophistication) or be righteous and the minute a darky does things like talk in english with a cool accent..people go..thats weird/fake(inside their heads, they dont necessarily say it out). people always wanna be associated with positivity and thats the reason why people have adopted other religion/cultures historically..for eg.the christians somehow thought hey will become more like europeans and they also think its now their right to guiltlessly use English a lot , now that they are christians.  Well if you have Europeans or any other positive idols on one end that you are running towards….you gotta have someone on the other end that you are runnign away from – and that my frinds now are the conservative south indians. Its just evolutionary psychology to look and act favourable towards something with postive traits, and discriminate against perceived negative traits. If you dont do this, evolutionary process will weed you out. We are not associated with looks,wealth, western culture, fun, etc ..why would anyone want to be associated with us. Best case scenario all we have is your pity and mostly people are running away from us.  You are not for a single second jealous of us.

Tam

The Hypocrisy:

Even among a homogenous society…the ones at the top(looks, wealth etc wise) are  more confident, enthusiatic, raw, have a ‘do what one feels like’ nature, playful, show off ,childish,aggressive, and act in a self-centred way..and the others accept this kinda behaviour from the people on top. Whereas the people in the bottom strata are always so curbed in their emotions because of either their confidence level or because of how the society expects them to be.  they are not so aggressive, modest, and hence are not very forth coming and they come across as quite dull and mature as they only act in a way that is expected of them. So in a way this raw, aggressive behaviour is also associated with Eliteness and maturity is associated with low class. And thats why every form of south indian expression, art,mannerism  – because of the modesty/maturity inherent in them, tends to get associated with low classness and the way bollywood/hollywood heroines talk and act gets associated with fun and classyness – even though they are not necessarily intelligent or brainy in comparison.The reason why many people are irritated by southies is the fact that we pretend to have fun and have the best culture without any fun. Its like some one eating a simple curdrice and claiming to have the best/tastiest food to the others who are eating biriyanis and pizzas. This hypocritical nature is I suspect is another of the reason for the above google search result. This hypocrisy is also why many tamils within chennai itself are trying to talk only in english and dissociate with the rest of the crowd. Southies claim to be living well, but when amongst northies we  burn with jealousy almost 99.9 % of the time and secretly bitch about you a lot to other southies, but mainly just wanna hump you and somehow become like you.

you can check these out for more hardcore debates and comments on this

http://www.ravikiran.com/blog/classic/200404/attention-north-indians/

http://www.topix.com/forum/in/mangalore/TCIL5226JG7U1IVFL

http://englisharuna.blogspot.in/2009/06/north-indians-vs-south-indians.html

 

This defending of conservativeness  has its root in trying to preserve its native/historical ( Christianity has actually made the tamil/south indian culture even more convervative than what it was before) culture and not readily accepting the values of west and the cognitive dissonance that comes with trying to deal with its influence. Its good to have pride in our culture, but I think the conservative attitude only works well in closed societies and in this day of globalisation, we need to re-asses our outlook.

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Thats what is missing from the southies. And so just because we have to be more fun , it doesnt mean that we become ultra-liberal and superficially flirty and playful. I guess things need to change step by step. A very good first step would be to not be afraid to show off having fun, or not hold back. Our texts like  kural etc  tell us not to be aggressive or show off / rub it in the face of others that you are having fun. But in this globalised life, everybody else is rubbing it in our faces. So we better become more forth-coming, and openly fun. It starts from the way we speak – the tone, the accent, the body language, what we say etc to a change in the mature/conservative attitude we have. Just because you are Tamil or indian, it doesnt mean you have to be humble or simple. You do not have to talk in english or be more westernised in taste to have an attitude. You can talk in tamil yet have that confidence, attitude or a fun ‘holier than though’ outlook . I mean a lot of things has to fall in place for that, like you should be proud of your intellectual/physical traits and ‘Tamilness’ and tamil culture/movies should be cool somehow(which is gonna take a long time with the dravidian conservative outlook)..but generally if youve been places , done things or know things or you know ur having fun,you can develop this confident attitude.

I mean look at the above picture.A typical conservative yet cheerful south indian girl rite? but she is kamalini mukerjee  and now imagine her in some modern attire with an out going persona..completey a different perception of her comes to mind. I think kamal has carefully selected here to give out these messages to us.The former a bengali and the later a punjabi – roma asrani. Reputation is the cornerstone of power and southies need a reputation of being flirty and fun and aggressive, which their maturity kills. Without this fun factor, there is no way we could come across as more sophisticated/hi-fi or give them the holier-than -thou or better-than-you attitude while we meet others and size each other up.

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30 Comments

  1. It’s mostly true with Tamil people only. Go and see the beauty of Kerala males and females.Likewise people of Andhra and Kannadigas ..they are no way inferior to any northern race in looks and in any matter.

    • My Lucky day..a moron just to prove my point on how certain people try to run away from us, and claim the negative traits as being associated with Only us tamils. Many NIs who are unaware of the updates in Indian Genetic Anthropology studies believe that – ‘Oh we are aryans, its only because we have intermingled with the southie-dravidians that some of us are dark/unattractive’. Here we have the telugus, maloos claiming that even they are different fom tamils and that all unattractive/dark south Indians come Only from tamil nadu – a cunning way to try to get a positive perception for yourselves by dissociating yourselves from you neighbour and trying to attribute all the negativity towards them.
      As far as your comment goes my dear golti…Telugus and tamils look very similar so much so that none of the other groups can tell us apart.
      Andhra( and kerala and karnataka) has greener, better climate than TN and thats why they have a slightly higher percent of people who are fair skinned…The Telugu population is much higher and the people on top are exploiting the other classes so much and consequently there are a higher number of rich people brought up in luxurious conditions. Whereas in TN the land lords have historicall done farming themselves..in other words a lot of the average farmers owned bits of land in TN..and many of us are dark. You only consider the high number of rich telugus and make a generalisation based on that which is inaccurate. Even chennai could have been much more progressive only if it didnt have the high poupulation of ancestral /newly migrating Goltis in the city.

    • nice comedy andhra fellows and Kannadigas are pretty and handsome. How many arvindsamy, madhvan, kamal, surya u can see in andhra or karnataka. lol

    • seriously!!! I agree with kerala and karnataka but not andhra. People of andhra are uglier than tamils. I haven’t seen even a single good looking girl or boy from andhra. Girls of andhra are not even close to beautiful. Definitely i am a guy from andhra and i have seen this with my own eyes. I live in Bangalore and i have seen many kannada girls who look more prettier than those telugus and even better than northies for that matter. there are absolutely none in andhra. tamil nadu has its own fair share of good looking people. look at the brahman community in tn and compare it with that of andhra. tn wins definitely. andhra is the ugliest state in india when it comese to looks

  2. A good read. True the perceptions and misconceptions in the society needed to be rectified. Very good job.Spread the message. Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder!

  3. the world is changing, maybe its time for people of india to go out and see the rest of the world

  4. Reading your post confirms the fact that Indians are more colour prejudiced than even Europeans. Indians still equates beauty and attractiveness with skin colour At least Europeans and others appreciate people who are darkskinned but attractive.No wonder Fair and lovely cream is doing big business there. It makes me laugh when Indians from other South Indian states jump to defend their differences from Tamils by saying they are fairer therefore more good looking Especially Keralites always like to protest how different they are from Tamils .I am a Tamil but can understand 70 percentage of it’s content when I watch a Malayalam film ,that shows how close the language and the people are .Kerala being in the western coast means it has lot of immigrants from the west in the ancient times who interbred with original Dravidian population ,therefore they have slightly more mixed population .As for Telugus,the famous Telugus Vijayakanth,Vishal and silk Smitha are very dark,infact darker than Tamil actors Surya,Simbu and Vijay .According to genetics and anthropology Indians are a mixture of many races. We all have genes from Australoids ,Dravidians ,mongoloids and Caucasians. Only difference is the percentage varies between regions as well as individuals.
    For European eyes we are all dark people with different shades of brown and black ‘Anyway who said North Indians have a nice accent ,lot of foreigners make fun of their accent as well

    • Arul,
      Keralites or kannadigas claiming that they are more fair and have better features is true. The real issue is they think they have these features becoz they have a higher percent of western/arabian/north indian genes in them and that only tamils have the pure dravidian/australoid/ dark and saggy genes in them. They all want to identify them as being closer to the westersn/arab/NI and thus are trying to run away and have a different identity from tamils. They do not want to believe that their fair skin is becoz of living in a better climatic zone but they think its becoz they have better genes in them. You have conceded their point but referring to dravidians as different from caucasians and believing in the aryan invasion theory which the british created to divide us. btw the preference for fair skin is only natural.

        • Anandan
        • Posted June 13, 2014 at 3:05 am
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        Gst lost its proved that Dravidian theory is wrong tamilnadu people are ugly…. When a dark person come to kerela we call them panda we use to make fun of there dressing and look… ugly black Tamils

    • Don’t forget the negrito.. they’re the original original African inhabitants of India! and north Indians have a very funny accent “English” especially when you compare them with Europeans..

      With the development in South we will be mocking the poor accents of North Indians like how they mock us for not knowing Hindi in their movies.

  5. It is not colour.It is facial features that matters when it comes to aesthetics.Tamils have facial features what majority of people consider ugly.

    • I can understand that your brain doesnt have the capacity to comprehend the several points made in this blog. This blog is not even about skin color, but thats all an intellectual midegt like yourself will infer – i know

    • that might ur personal opinion. genarally andhra and karnataka people have ugly face.

  6. Im more into in a beast like body than a beautiful face, thats what a man needs LOL.

    Nevertheless a concise article, perfectly nails it!

  7. The world out there is changing, and its time we change our conceptions as well. I don’t understand how can one define beauty on the basis of the skin color one is carrying.

    Grow up society

  8. Kareena Kapoor > Vidya Balan? Really? You got to be kidding me. I’m not too familiar with Bollywood actresses but know enough to say that Kareena Kapoor looks like a man. Cut off her hair and stick in a suit and she would be a very handsome man.

    And Bollywood movies are associated with coolness? What planet are you living on? Bollywood is a joke. Those stupid dance numbers are at least 10 years behind MTV, the backup dancers are not even Indian and their imitation of Beyoncé looks nothing like her and only look ridiculous. And the plots are a joke; it’s always an “industrialist” located in some foreign country, etc., etc. It’s nothing but a pathetic display of inferiority complex.

    I’ve seen a lot of ugly Indians both in the North & South. Most of it seems to be because Indians of late have become very fat and completely out of shape.

  9. Tamils should recognize their ancestors and history. Your ancestors are from Africa. The migration happened after the drift in the continent. Australian aborigines and tamil are same people. the African feature are very well seen in srilankan, singapore and malayasian and indian tamils.Tamils are the only Dravidian in south india. Kannadigas and telegus are not dravidians. Kannadigas are indiginous people, culture tradition and even look wise very diiferent. so do telegus. stop feeling insecure and understand the history and respect your ancestors, the same DNA present in your body. Persons conduct characters matters a lot. there is nothing bad in looking ugly. it is all how you think. it is high time that tamils understand there true history rather than comparing themselves with kannadigas or north Indians or any other else.

    • Great, another example to prove the point of this post

    • Ancestor and history says tamils are from sindhu.First human in the world is tamilan and first language is tamil.even the language kannada is born from mixing of tamil and sanskrit.research says tamils are intelligent than isrelies(yudhaas).agni missile,chandrayan,bokram nuclear test,croyojenic engine for gslv rockets,arjun tank,nobel prize for maths,oscar for music,mastro in music these are some of example for tamils achievement

        • Nithin
        • Posted September 30, 2015 at 4:17 am
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        Indias top guns are from TN..like Abdul Kalam,A.R.Rahman,Sir.C.V.Raman,Ramanujam,Kamal Hassan,Shankar,A.R.Muragadoss(His Movie Ghajini was the first to enter 100 crore club)and still many more…thats why most of them hate Tamil..they doesnt have any other way to criticize tamil..thats they are using skin colous as a weapon..when you look at a typical north Indian his face will look like edgy box..white is not a colour actually.TN has the most no of temples than any other states…most of northies come to perform Jyothishya rituals in TN.Grow up people

    • LMAO EVERYONE is Africa! where do you think you come from? Mars? ALL OF HUMANITY comes from Africa.

      “Australian aborigines and tamil are same people.”
      Yeah except we look NOTHING LIKE THEM.

      “African feature are very well seen in srilankan, singapore and malayasian and indian tamils”
      Like what? Afro lips? Afro hair? Afro genetics? or is it just dark skin? that’s all it takes for one to be “African”? dark skin? well i’ve got news for you! 80% Indians are DARK skinned.

      “it is high time that tamils understand there true history rather than comparing themselves with kannadigas or north Indians or any other else”
      LMAO we’re not comparing us with anyone! you’re the racist white skin worshipper attritbuting darker Tamils to Africa just cus they have dark skin.. no genetics nothing.. just dark skin =Africa.. its just that simple logic you racists make..

      and to it all of NOT ALL Tamils have a consistently “dark” skin.. you know? LIKE ALL OF INDIANS!?

  10. skin is not matter… what is hided behind of tamilians was brain. 7 countries tamil is official languages than india

  11. African ? How many tamils grow hair like this ???

  12. Apart from the facial features and skin color there is not much difference in humans. Africans are less hairy than Indians and europeans. Indians are the most hairy.

  13. An average man/woman in any race is a fat potato. Have you ever seen the beauty of rosie odonnell ?

  14. People have this wrong notion that all europeans are model types. No, an average english is a beer bellied ugly fat fart.

  15. https://www.google.com/search?safe=off&tbm=isch&sa=1&q=chavs+british+&oq=chavs+british+&gs_l=img.3…16953.19468.0.19607.0.0.0.0.0.0.0.0..0.0….0…1c.1.64.img..0.0.0.BTCRg4H6_kc

  16. German woman are one of the ugliest, looks like men in drag.

    • Himachal pradesh guy
    • Posted April 26, 2017 at 6:20 am
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    Tamilians should embrace their Aboriginal and African heritage and accept they rae distinct. Yes, a few “fair skinned” ones exist, mostly the descendants of migrant or mixed with others, but the true tamilian is a black beauty.

    Keralites etc are mongrelized people, due to Konkanis and other north Indians migrating south, or Sri lankan sinhalese moving to Kerala, and Arab, iranian traders all mixing in. True South Indians are black broad nosed beauties true descendants of Africans and Aborginals.

    Be proud of your Aborginal and African heritage dear Tamils. Yes, some may look ugly to outsider, but hey, beauty is in eye of beholder.


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